Independence vs Inter-dependence
In an age where there are hot discussions of feminism on every forum, anything other than sole independence of a female is considered regressive. A girl’s mind is fed with bites of being independent in every task from the very beginning. She should earn, she should drive, she should do all heavy physical jobs, fetching things from the market, going out at night and so on.
So, are the boys now being taught to cook, do household chores and everything which a girl can do. Many have also started dressing in girl’s clothes in name of unisex clothing.
Independence is good. It makes individuals self-sufficient.
But have you ever wondered that it also makes you lonely and detached. Perhaps it also makes it very difficult for us to ask for help when we are in dire need.
Look at the last two generations. Our fathers and grandfathers hardly knew anything about the kitchen and there were very few eateries around. It is our mothers and grandmothers who fed them and took care of every need.
Same was the case for the women folk. They hardly knew about how money was brought for home expenses. They just knew how to use it and save it for bad times. They also knew how to take care of their husbands when they were tired or stressed out due to work.
Here, I am certainly not saying that we should abandon all progress which we have done and go back to stone age. I am just saying that this mad race has to stop. Both genders were created by nature with their own unique qualities. Men were created with an extra chromosome and women were created with an extra strand in DNA. Men were given more physical strength whereas women were given intuition and ability of multitasking. Men were to logic whereas women were to emotions. A man would build a house and his woman would turn it into a home. Men were about everything raw, whereas women were about everything soft.
In trying to surpass the other one, we have lost the gift that nature gave us. We are swimming against the current every minute when it is not needed at all. We have inflicted this self-punishment on ourselves. Where it is a need, it is understandable. Where it is not, it is sheer folly.
Today since either genders can do everything, they have broken those fragile ties which bound them subtly. The premises for handholding of relationships have depleted. We are not providing the other person, the very ground to extend us something. Since we don’t allow him/her to approach, he/she does not know how to do it either. And then we start our nag that the other doesn’t care.
Have we left any area for him/her to care? The key is balance. We have to leave some areas to depend on our loved ones. And make sure to share the burden at the same time. We have nothing to prove to others. Even if we join this mad rat race, we will still be a rat. We have to stop, we have to start sharing our life with our loved ones again. We have to allow them inside again.